What does it mean to Live Your Life?
All of us have been influenced by ideas or suggestions made by others, whether it be a family member, friends, teachers, religious leaders, politicians, celebrities, yada, yada. We feel torn by opinions and advice that tug at our insides making us wonder whether we should listen to the voice in our heads or outside of our heads. I know now that I should listen to me and the right decision will come. You probably have many choices to make along the way, after all this IS what life is about. Choosing a career, a mate, a home, a meal, a school - all of these decisions are the building blocks for your life. Don't let anyone make those decisions for you.
Living your Life isn't Easy
To live your life, you may find is not that easy. There are many who want to influence the decisions you make to somehow benefit them. I listen to others while balancing my own ideas. When I was the most indecisive (during my years as a single woman in my 30's), I was not so aware of this. I was not able to find a balance between opinions of others and my inner voice. I'd ping pong back and forth for weeks about how to handle disrespectful relationships, making excuses for staying in a bad relationship, depending heavily on others opinions. This was the tough part of living my life. To this day, I have no regrets, but I do think that I was unbalanced in my decision making process. I would bounce from one "advisor" to the next asking for guidance on relationships over and over when it was obvious what decisions made sense. I kept looking for the "advisor" that would give me the answer I wanted. Eventually, I'd find that person and live my life.
Living My Life in the Caribbean
The last six months have been a whirlwind. I've moved from Atlanta, Ga. to the Caribbean with my husband of 13 years. This is not our first venture into a lifestyle which revolves around crystal blue sea, white sand beaches and the fresh salty air. We've done this before. Almost 10 years to date we relocated to Grand Cayman, Cayman Islands. I think that the reason we left was because we thought we "should" be doing something else. I have had difficulty in the past with making decisions - I've even been told that by supervisors during my career. The one thing I have learned from this criticism is to "Make a decision and make it right". I can not remember regrets about any decisions I've made so far. I always make the best of any decision I've chosen to make.
I knew I was not thrilled with my current job as a web developer for a successful software company. I was burned out after many years dealing with one challenging assignment after another. I would complain to my amazing husband on a nightly basis. I wanted to start a job search, but was sure I did not want to continue to live and work in Atlanta, Ga. My husband and I decided we were ready to go back to warmer climate and decided upon Sarasota, Fl. We both thought it would be easy to get employment there, but after months of no serious offers, we were a bit discouraged. Then, out of no where we received a text message from a friend in Grand Cayman. The text message said there were openings for my husband at a reputable company. He immediately sent his resume and within two weeks received a respectable offer. We did not look back. Our decision to relocate was a no brainer. Sarasota became a thing of the past ( coulb be in our future). We sold everything we could and within two months we were living in Grand Cayman.There were many signs along the way that Sarasota might not be ready for us. When the job offer came from Grand Cayman, there were many signs that Grand Cayman was a better path to take.
The first time I lived in the Cayman Islands, I was extremely influenced by family and friends. Probably the main reason for moving back to the States was family related. I know that my family is disappointed in this decision, but this time, I am living my life.
I always try let others make their own decisions even though many times I've been tempted to give advice to people. And that means they must make their own mistakes and live their own lives.